There is a tenderness to which God calls us… even in the places where our hearts are raw… something that happened to me most recently!
It’s easy to love those who clap for us, pray for us, celebrate us, and speak our names with honor.
But what about those who rub salt into our wounds?
What about those who sprinkle our reputation with half-truths and hard hearts?
What about those who twisted the story?
What about you, Judas?
Every woman of God eventually meets one.
The one who was supposed to stand with you, but was actually against you.
The one who smiles in your presence, but sighs and speaks ill in your absence.
The one who recklessly handles your heart, as if the sacred space you gave is just something to throw away.
However, Jesus knelt.
He knelt before the man who would sell Him for silver.
He knelt before the one whose kiss would become the deepest wound.
He knelt and washed the dust from the feet that would lead Him to betrayal.
He chooses love!
Not because Judas was worthy, but because Jesus was holy.
Daughter of God…
Loving your Judas doesn’t mean you pretend the betrayal didn’t hurt.
This means you surrender the wound to the One who can heal it.
This means you refuse to allow bitterness to build a throne in your chest.
This means you choose obedience over offense and grace over retribution.
Because you can’t control others.
You can’t rewire their motives.
You can’t change their choices.
But you can protect your heart from becoming what hurt you.
God sees.
God knows.
God hears the words spoken in the dark and the thoughts whispered in the silence. He stands in every fire in which you are placed. Even the fire lit by someone else’s hatred.
He teaches us not to react out of emotions, but from His Spirit.
When you feel betrayed.
Keep serving.
When it hurts.
Keep loving.
When you want to withdraw.
Keep praying.
When you do that, you disarm the enemy.
Love covers. (1 Peter 4:8) Love heals.
Love liberates.
And love, true, holy, uncomfortable love, breaks the strategy of hell wide open.
For anger is a door.
Grudge is an invitation.
Bitterness becomes a pedestal.
The enemy is a master at dragging women into wars they were never meant to be involved in.
But forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a sword.
Forgiveness is a shield.
Forgiveness is a statement that says: “You will not write the story of my heart but God will.”
So, woman of God.
How do you love your Judas?
You love them by refusing to reflect their actions.
You pray until your heart softens again.
You serve until heaven weighs more heavily than bitterness and offense.
You bless what wanted to break you.
You allow God to defend and define you.
For vengeance belongs to the Lord (Romans 12:19).
Judgment belongs to the Lord.
Justice belongs to the Lord.
Your only command is love.
And sometimes the purest form of love is to let God handle what your heart cannot bear.
Step forward.
Worship.
Be faithful.
And remember— Judas never stopped Jesus….. and he won’t stop you either.
Author : Dr. Ziva Spangeberg